I am not who I used to be and that is a beautiful thing
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I am not who I used to be and that is a beautiful thing

So much has changed over the last few months and yet here I am – still me but somehow different than I used to be. When I think of my GOOD life, today, it’s simple. Slow. It’s gathering in a nourishing community that welcomes me in my fullness. It’s embracing myself as I am. Being…

People pleasing (“fawning”) is a (overlooked) trauma response
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People pleasing (“fawning”) is a (overlooked) trauma response

I’ve been digging deeper into the origins and consequences of trauma and how it impacts our nervous system lately, so I want to share what I’ve discovered so far.  What is trauma? Trauma is not just about the things that happened to us that should not have happened. It also includes what DIDN’T happen to…

What I wish I knew when starting my healing journey
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What I wish I knew when starting my healing journey

I believe, one of the most important lessons I had to learn the hard way is: YOU CAN’T POUR FROM AN EMPTY CUP!⠀⠀You’ve probably heard about this analogy: Before an airplane takes off, the flight attendants deliver advice on what to do in an emergency situation. They explain that if the oxygen masks drop down,…