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Hi, I am Nila, a 27 year old Holistic Coach (MScPsy) Yoga Teacher, and Nutritionist from Hamburg, Germany. I am passionate about encouraging people look within to harness the power of their inner wisdom so that they can cultivate a more compassionate, curious and nourishing connection to themselves and ultimately find the truth of who they are – perfectly whole in all their imperfections.

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❥ Your monthly reminders. As always, feel free t

❥ Your monthly reminders. As always, feel free to take one, share one, save one, send one to someone who needs a lil' love note. 🧡

Dear one, you made it through the first 2 months of 2021. It's time to take sacred pause to reflect, turn inward, and remind yourself that this month - this moment - is a new one to begin again. 🕊

Take a deep breath. And then another.
Roll your shoulders - up and back.
Let out a big sigh.

Are you feeling just a little bit better? I sure do. 🙂

I'm so glad you are here, in this moment. Welcoming it. Embracing it. Being with whatever IS without trying to change it.

These are the small moments that get you through. Just be here. It’s beautiful, and we miss so much when we’re trying to 'get there'.

Let this moment settle. It’s ready when you are.

It matters not what the world is doing around you, but what the world within you is doing. Listen to that. Trust that. Embrace that.

How about we enjoy life a little more? How about we have a little more fun. Play a little more. Dance a little more. Fully express ourselves. Take risks and do the scary things. Tune into the juiciness of deep conversations. Stay in bed just a little longer and give our bodies the gentleness to rest, replenish and restore. Sing under the shower as if no-body's listening. Dig our hands in the dirt to plant new seeds for spring so that we can watch the flowers blossom and wonder with awe at the beauty all around us - the beauty that we have planted.

By following even the smallest impulses that arise, we can release this light into our lives and begin a steady transformation back towards wholeness.

May we all be as compassionate to ourselves as we are to others. May we applaud ourselves for showing up anyway, for being brave. May we remember our value is intrinsic. May we remember that we are doing our best. May we continue to imperfectly show up and fiercely fight for unconditional humanity.

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Nila

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🎉 FINAL CHANCE to join me in the Total Transformation© program. (Doors close tonight! Link in bio.) Whether you join me or not… please don’t wait another year to start living your own GOOD life. You deserve it!

❥ It's not too late to be who you came here to b

❥ It's not too late to be who you came here to be + doors to the Total Transformation© close tomorrow 🧡

I know the pain of feeling like you’re wasting your time. Of feeling like there’s so much more to you that you than you’re allowing yourself to be. I know what it feels like to be lost. To feel so stuck that you start to doubt if you’ll ever get the chance to experience the life you know exists out there for you.

It's taken a long time to get to who I am today - the same yet far away from who I'd been before. ⁣What I've learned throughout my own journey is that sometimes things need to fall apart to come together. Sometimes what may feel like a break-down (or a dark period that sticks with us for a couple of months/years), will eventually be a break-through offering us a lighter, more joyful state of being. Sometimes we need to break a little more to heal & transform a little more.
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And if you are able to get through the process, you will be rewarded with the ability to be with yourself - by yourself. Isn't that a precious ability to attain?

Today's invitation: keep transforming until you get to the core of yourself. Don't give up on your dream, your desires, and never ever on yourself. So what are you afraid will happen if you let yourself be good enough, here and now?

I believe, it's not about be(com)ing a new person, but be(com)ing the person you were meant to be, and already are, but don't know how to be. 🕊
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Dear one, if you want to learn how you can harness your own innate wisdom as fuel to support your healing, get crystal clear on what you truly deeply desire, how to 'be yourself - for yourself' now - and always, feel free to join my 3-month, in-depth group coaching program the Total Transformation©!

I promise you it will be worth it.
I promise you you are worth it.
I promise you it's not too late.
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I promise you: I’ve got a whole lot of love in me to share with you🧡

May you find your path and have the courage to follow it.
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I’d be honoured to have you.
All in,
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Nila

(link in bio)!

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👉🏼 swipe for 12 things that transformed my life (hint: these are the things I teach you in the Total Transformation©) DOORS CLOSE TOMORROW!

❥ I am a lover of nuance and both/and (and or!).

❥ I am a lover of nuance and both/and (and or!). It’s amazing how such a small word can make such a huge difference.

Often times we try to make sense of things by allowing ourselves to only feel, think, or believe one thing at a time. Yet, reality is much more complex. I have struggled with this for years. There was never room for both. Nowadays, "AND" is one of my favorite words. It gives me freedom, creates space for multiple emotions and realities. It shows the complexity of our human nature and that there is beautiful freedom in multiple choices. ⠀

Dear one, here's what I imagine for you:
⭐︎ You feel more calm, peaceful and at ease in your life by learning to trust your body and intuition
⭐︎ You find what brings you joy, peace, and compassion.
⭐︎ You feel worthy of acceptance and belonging – from both yourself and others.

You are not a self-improvement project. You are a human who has been taught that she is "too much", "too needy", "too emotional, never "good enough". You have been taught that for love and belonging, you need to shrink and play small. What a lie. You are not the stories told to you by people too afraid to accept themselves.

How someone chooses to see you and the meaning that they make of your struggle is up to them. You can’t control it but you will spend your entire life trying if you so choose.

If you are ready to feel connected to yourself - like, really, truly, embodied, and connected with your innermost being and want to finally gain the confidence to trust your intuition, I am here to tell you that if I can do it, so can you! Trust me when I say that things do end up working out, just not always the way you thought they would.

I see you, I have been you, and I trust in you coming back to yourself and remembering who you were before the world told you who you “should be”.
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If this is the kind of support you are looking for, you are invited to join me in the Total Transformation©. (Doors close on Monday. Link in bio)!

I believe in the knowledge I have to share and my ability to guide you. I believe in the transformational change of this program. And more than anything, I believe in YOU be(com)ing you. Don't you? 🧡

Nila

❥ This is how it all started. With a conscious b

❥ This is how it all started. With a conscious believe - in myself. 🕊

I spent numerous moments throughout my life thinking there’s something wrong with me. Thinking, I am too much. Too demanding. I have too many expectations. Too many rough edges. While I still stumble and fall - and search for answers to my infinite questions daily - I don’t think of my curiosity as of something terrible. Not anymore.

Instead, I cherish it. I celebrate it. An I invite you to do the same.

If only you could see, dear one, that you are doing so much better than you think. You are so much more than you believe. You are growing so much more than you could ever imagine, and you are on your way to becoming even more of who you came here to be.

If only you could see.

Whenever you would like, you can begin again. It is never too late or too early to start steering your life in a new direction towards a different shore. Whenever you want or need, my dear, you can begin again. Again and again.

No matter where you find yourself today, may you allow yourself to begin again. Begin finding your way towards everything that is meant for you. Begin letting your old story go so that you can step into all the new that is waiting for you.

You are wise. I believe with my whole heart that you actually know who you are and what you are supposed to be doing. I believe that you know your soul better than anyone, and that if you just put your ear up to it and listened, you would hear the Truth.

I know what it is like to yearn for something but not really know what that "thing" is. I know what it is like to wonder what else was possible. I know what it is like to want to do something else, but feel like you can’t. I know because I have been there. I also know from experience that it isn’t the big move or the drastic change that is going to "fix" any of that. Instead of trying to do/be more, let yourself be human.

You, my dear, are free to consciously create your own good life.

Oh yes you are!

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Nila

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Ps: The TT© program closes in 5 days. It'd be an honour to guide you on your journey home - to yourself. I promise you, you are worth it!

(You know where to find the link.)

❥ This one is for YOU. 🧡 If you're reading

❥ This one is for YOU. 🧡

If you're reading this, know that you are loved, appreciated and never alone. This life thing isn't easy but it's totally worth it. The lessons we learn and the growth that our soul experiences is priceless. Hold onto your faith and be a giver of kindness whenever of possible. It is always darkest before the dawn. Know that better days aren't too far away. Don't settle for a shallow life!

You deserve:
⭐︎ to feel safe being yourself
⭐︎ to know that you are okay
⭐︎ to say out loud when you are not ok
⭐︎ to be seen, heard, and supported
⭐︎ to feel connected to the world around you
⭐︎ to get bursts of creativity that light you up
⭐︎ to feel energized
⭐︎ to think clearly
⭐︎ to look around and feel overwhelming gratitude
⭐︎ to love with your whole heart - even when it has been broken
⭐︎ to be guided in your be(com)ing

You deserve this and so much more.
You deserve to consciously create your own GOOD life.

Darling you, repeat after me:
⭐︎ Who I have been is enough.
⭐︎ Who I will be is enough.
⭐︎ Who I am is enough.
⭐︎ I am enough.
⭐︎ I am enough.
⭐︎ I am enough.

Oh yes, you are. 🧡

May you come back home to yourself each time you forget who you are.

Nila

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There is 1 week left to join me in the Total Transformation© - 12 weeks of body, mind, soul healing & transformation. The topics that we explore in this program are meant to bring you closer to understanding yourself as a whole and gaining the tools to nurture your whole being.

The Total Transformation© is an invitation.
An invitation to heal. An invitation to release. An invitation to express. An invitation to self-forgive. An invitation to trust. An invitation to self-empowerment. An invitation to wholeness. An invitation to belong. An invitation to find a home - within.

You deserve to be guided on this journey home - to yourself. (link in bio) 🕊

❥ I think someone should tell you this: It's not

❥ I think someone should tell you this: It's not too late to be(come) the person you want to be. How?

By allowing ourselves to "be here now", to let go of everything that no longer serves us, and create space for what is seeking to emerge through us. Transformation is a constant process of letting go and letting come by being here - being you.
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It took me a long while to get where I am today - the same, but still so far away from where I started - and my journey is far from over, but I'm at a stage in my journey where I feel ready to share the methods, skills and tools that have helped me and continue to help me heal & thrive.
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If you haven't heard, I just opened the doors to the Total Transformation© Program, an intimate 12-week live, group coaching journey. Three months of going deep. Three months of remembrance. Three months of leaving so as to return back - to yourself.
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A question I received recently: this sounds great Nila, but how does one transform into something they’ve never known?
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The answer is easy. Not easily done but easily said.
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They learn how to harness their own inner wisdom, the one that is unique to them. The tingling in their belly. The rhythm of their aliveness. The pulse of their own soul.
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And that’s exactly what I'm teaching you in the Total Transformation©: How you can harness the wisdom of your mind (beliefs, thoughts, emotions; Module 1), body (nutrition, movement, self-care, rest, self-compassion; Module 2), and soul (passions, strengths, purpose; Module 3) to become aware of yourself and the role you are actualising in this life-time.

If you are ready to embark on a transformational journey from your head to your heart and through the body, it will be an honour to walk you home - to yourself. The place where all of you belongs. I am so excited to finally share this pathway with you after years of figuring it out on my own!
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It's time for every part of you to be loved into wholeness.🕊
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Doors close March 1. (link in bio)
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Dear one, your story isn't over. You deserve to be(come) who you want to be. This could be your first step.🧡
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Nila
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“It doesn't matter where you start. Only that you begin.”
- Robin Sharma

❥ Writing this made me soften. Maybe reading it

❥ Writing this made me soften. Maybe reading it (out loud) will do the same for you. 🙂

Brené Brown says: “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love”. Unfortunately, most of us where never taught to be gentle with ourselves and to be with our struggles and our pain. Quite the contrary. Many of us (myself included) where taught to suppress, numb, and swallow the heaviness. Self-compassion isn't something we are taught at school - what a shame.

Shedding, waning, waxing all to become full again - an embodiment of our wholeness - is not an easy task.

I was once afraid of being me. I tried to fix myself, mold myself into places I had long outgrown. I had trouble asking for what I want - which was always 'too much' - or so I thought. A simple "no, thank you" wasn't an easy sentence to say.

So much has changed in the past year. I’m not who I used to be. I'm a constant work in progress. And that is a beautiful thing. So believe me when I say: I see you, I have been you, and wherever you are in your phases of becoming - you’re right on time.

Dear one, may you find the courage to believe in yourself.
I know I sure do.

Repeat after me:
⭐︎ I choose myself.
⭐︎ I choose myself everyday in every way.
⭐︎ I choose to create my own GOOD life.

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If you're looking for a nourishing, healing space free of judgement and instead full of compassion and curiosity for your journey ahead, I’d like to invite you to join me in the Total Transformation©.
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This program is not about aggressive self improvement. It’s not about forcing ourselves into some imagined perfection. It’s about taking the time to really understand who we are.
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And this makes all the difference.

This is about supporting you to transform from the inside-out. My work is less about unbreaking - though some of that must and will enter the experience - and more about finding an increasingly easeful, less adversarial path home to myself.

This is the Total Transformation© - and you, yes YOU, are invited (link in bio)

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Nila

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It’s all up to you.
It’s all here for you.
I am always here - for you. 🕊

❥ These are the things I teach in the Total Tran

❥ These are the things I teach in the Total Transformation© + YOU (yes YOU) ARE INVITED 🕊

This is more than an invitation. It's a homecoming. An invitation from my heart to you to be(come) fully alive. A space off of social media to deepen, expand, and support your inner work.

The TT© is an opportunity to return home to your inner self, and listen deeper, to the voices that may have been suppressed for far too long. You can expect to be embraced in a small group of beautiful human beings (yourself included) that will strengthen your authentic inner voice and offer you a safe space to be who you came here to be.

Everything I will be sharing is simple & accessible, yet these practices have radically transformed my life and strengthened my self worth on a cellular level.

You are deserving of living in complete harmony with yourself. and it is my prayer that the TT© illuminates your path back home, to the source of unconditional love that was always present inside of you.

According to the Oxford dictionary *transformation* means: “a complete change in someone or something” and that’s exactly what I want to enlighten within you - for you. Together. You. And me. To connect. To engage. To teach and support one another 🧡
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Transformational change starts in the head (knowledge), goes to the heart (experience), and through your body (wisdom)!

Join me on a journey that goes beyond mere knowledge - from your head to your heart and through your body. Join me on a journey home - to yourself. It’s time for every part of your heart to be loved into wholeness.

I know you are a spectacular human being who’s deserving of compassion, kindness, care, and space in your own GOOD life.
Consider this your personal invitation to start believing that yourself, before you’re ready.

I’m ready for you. All of you.

Link in bio for more information and/or to sign yourself up. You can always DM me with your questions. I would be happy to receive them but my bet is that if you get still for a moment, you will have WAY better answers for you than I do.

🧡

Nila

"At the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want." - LAO TZU

❥ This felt so liberating to write down. Maybe w

❥ This felt so liberating to write down. Maybe writing your own "not to-do" list will do the same for you. 🧡

The truth is: for years, I hid behind my pain. I tried to be "everything to everyone" and wondered why I couldn't be anything for myself.

This looked like:
⭐︎ discounting my inner wisdom and following other people's advices
⭐︎ hiding parts of myself from both others and ultimately myself
⭐︎ internalising societal labels to define me
⭐︎ taking on self-help tips that didn’t align with what I truly needed (looking outside myself for the answers)

Today, I know that these things were never meant to be on my "to-do" list. What I actually needed was people who who could help me harness my own inner wisdom.

The problem I see is that social media is not a place to share and express this deep sense of self-expression and belonging. This little space may encourage you to stay here, but I'd like to invite you to stay with, and explore yourself. After all, isn't this what we are all here for? Desperately seeking for a sense of *real* belonging to, and within ourselves?
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That’s why I've created the Total Transformation©, a 12-week group coaching container as an opportunity to return home to your inner self, and listen deeper, to the voices that may have been suppressed for far too long. You can expect to be embraced in a small group of beautiful human beings (yourself included) that will strengthen your authentic inner voice and offer you a safe space to be who you came here to be.
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In case you want to have a lil' taste of what working with me feels like, I invite you to join a FREE masterclass this Sunday, 5pm CET on "Creating your own GOOD life". All you will need is a pen, a piece of paper (or your favourite journal), your favourite (hot) drink, a quiet space, and your undivided attention. 🕊
👉🏼 Link in bio!
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Dear one, no matter how (or if) our paths will ever cross outside this little screen, may you always remember that you are not a problem that needs to be fixed. You are a whole, powerful human being and I’ll always be here to show you how to feel it and be it.
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Start believing in you. I sure do! 🧡
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Nila

❥ Don't wait for the one - be(come) the one. 🕊

One of the most painful things I have ever experienced was loosing myself. I lost myself because I believed in someone else more than I believed in myself. I’ve looked outside myself for decades, wanting peace, wanting love, wanting validation. So I found myself at a dead-end road. As it turned out rock-bottom is a good place to start because you can’t go any lower. The only way from rock-bottom is up. I have been there, up - and above.

It took losing myself completely to finally see myself. I surrendered to a deeper wisdom to show me the way. And what a road it has been. A road where only love remains; no fear, no mistrust, no expectations. Only me - meeting myself exactly as I am.

Here's what I've learned:
The only way out is WITHIN.
The only moment to live is NOW.
The only one who can change anything is YOU.

There is a certain sense of rootedness and stillness that comes from knowing you can trust your inner wisdom. In no way do I think I have “arrived”. We never fully arrive. We’re in a constant state of growth. That’s what being human is all about.

So I invite you, dear one, to come as you are.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Be recklessly confident.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Put on a bullet proof vest.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Disregard the haters.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Stand in your power.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Speak your truth.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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You are enough,
already whole,⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
in all ways,
always.

You deserve to feel freedom, to completely express yourself, for who you truly are. 🕊

‘‘Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek & find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against love’’ - (oh) Rumi.
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Enrolment for the Total Transformation - 12 weeks of mind-body-soul healing closes on March 1.

I have created this group as a place to meet ourselves in a way that feels safe, connected & deeply nourishing.

The TT© is for those that are looking to build deeper interpersonal connections, establish a deeper relationship with their inner beings, and heal parts of themselves that may feel vulnerable or fragmented. Don't wait for the one - be(come) the one. 🕊

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I love you & I'm committed to help you do the same 🧡

Nila

❥ I hope you know that you are seen, heard + lov

❥ I hope you know that you are seen, heard + loved 🧡

No matter who you are or what you are currently going through know that I am thinking of you and I am holding you tight in my heart. It’s not time that heals all wounds. It’s love over time.

What if - instead of material possessions - you could gift your loved ones with truly seeing them, and hearing them out. To listen - rather than giving advice. To sit next to them, without saying anything. Just holding space for whatever it is that will evolve. And for those of us single souls out here: what if you could give this same compassion to ourself?

Whatever arises in your heart today, love that!
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Wether you receive a material gift this weekend or not, may today be the day you courageously pursue every opportunity to make a difference in someone else's life (including your own). Tell them that you love them. And don't forget yourself.

Maybe, just maybe, you are the one you have been looking for.

“To love someone is to learn the song in their heart and sing it to them when they have forgotten.” Arne Garborg

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I want you to know that you deserve to be seen, heard, and loved - without conditions!
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I love, see, hear, and appreciate you for just being YOU and for showing up for you - as you!

That’s more than I’ll ever ask from you.
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I will keep holding space for you and I am here in case you need me. Remember that the longer we stay at war with ourselves, the longer we remain internally homeless.

It’s time to hold your whole self, to find belonging inside of yourself for all of your parts. There are many ways to do this & I know the Total Transformation is one of them. 12 weeks. Community support. Daily integration work. 90 days (maybe more) of connection & community. A nurturing space for you, to be you. 🎉
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Link in bio for more information and/or to sign yourself up. I would be happy to receive them but my bet is that if you get still for a moment, you and your body will have way better answers for you than I do. 🕊

Let's come home now and
fall in love with the gift
that is
You.

Nila

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PS. I love you 🧡

❥ An invitation. A homecoming. A remembrance of

❥ An invitation. A homecoming. A remembrance of who you truly are. 🕊
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The TOTAL TRANSFORMATION©, my 3-month in-depth, live, group coaching program, is open for enrollment again! 🥳

I created the TT© for you from my heart because I truly believe in it. Newly revamped, it is going to be better than ever. (And, dare I say, it was already pretty amazing the last 2 rounds!)
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Dear one, I don’t know you. But I do know a lot about what it means to be human. About how beautiful and difficult it can be. So I wanted to create something that takes your WHOLE being (mind, body, soul) into account - now and forever.
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The TT© will gently teach you the tools I've developed & successfully implemented on my own healing journey. It includes modules about the latest research in brain-body connection combined with wisdom from ancient science & holistic psychology.
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The TT© is a program I wish would have existed when I felt so lost and alone on my own journey. But it didn’t.. so I’ve created it myself for people like me.. and you.
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I believe healing doesn’t have to be devoid of joy and celebration. Healing is asking you to (re)claim a life of safety, belonging, authentic connection, worth and wholeness. My aim in creating this program is that you emerge with greater compassion, confidence and clarity about this set of holistic tools, about your ability to utilise them, and about your own vast human potential for transformation.
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According to the Oxford dictionary *transformation* is “a complete change in someone or something” and that’s exactly what I want to enlighten within you - for you.
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Transformation starts in the head (knowledge), goes through your body (experience), and straight into your heart (wisdom)!
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You deserve to be able to re-connect with who you truly are, what you truly need, and what you truly want. You deserve to live your own GOOD life, and you never ever have to go through it alone!
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It’s time for every part of your being to be loved into wholeness. I believe in you. Don't you?
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Link in bio to apply and/or find out more. Here's to you - be(com)ing who you came here to be. 🧡
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Nila

❥ Let's normalise being imperfect human beings &

❥ Let's normalise being imperfect human beings & not problems that need to be fixed. ✨

Let's also normalise the importance of understanding, seeking and embracing nuance in our lives and our world.

Living a life of nuance requires that we:
⭐︎ are patient as we discover what is waiting to be found (not necessarily what we want to find).
⭐︎ set aside the impulse to immediately “know” or “have an opinion” about the most recent current event or issue presented in conversation and instead listen, ask questions, give yourself time to explore what you discover.
⭐︎ savor all of the magnificent, confusing information that we will come across and become more comfortable with grappling with the absence of simplicity.
⭐︎ understand that it is possible to be too simple, or to simplify something too much so that it loses its true meaning.
⭐︎ stretch ourselves.
⭐︎ become more comfortable in the not knowing.
⭐︎ become forever a student of life with an open mind to see and explore all that we do not know yet.
⭐︎ live a life that eliminates the superlative from describing something beyond our personal experience – the best, the worst, the easiest, the most difficult, anything on a comparative scale that ends in “est” or includes the ‘most’ or ‘least’.

Let us choose today to celebrate and acknowledge the nuances in our lives and in the world that surrounds us. When we have mastery over our emotions, our minds, and thus the quality of our lives, we begin to see the life and the world we want to live in.

🌿 An announcement: The Total Transformation© - my 12-week signature program is back! Newly revamped and oh-so-nourishing, the TT© is going to be better than ever. (And, dare I say, it was already pretty awesome the last 2 times!) Click the link in my bio if you want to embark on a real transformational journey with me, Nila ...a real, imperfect human being, who will help you embrace & re-claim all of who you are.
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It’d be an honor to walk you home-to yourself. 🧡
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Nila
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“Your heart knows the way. Run in that direction.” Rumi
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❥ Read that again + monthly love-letter is going

❥ Read that again + monthly love-letter is going out tonight 🕊

I spent this weekend with my loved ones - away from the noise of 'social' media - sharing tears, laughter, juicy conversations and deep, delicious joy. As we were gathering around the table, we started chatting about the healing path and how we so often get 'stuck' as we don't allow ourselves to enjoy life fully - as we heal.

Dear one, although we are conditioned to believe that healing and transformation are pre requirements of finding deep fulfilment in our life, I invite you to take a sacred pause, and question this conditioning. This is a loud time in a loud world, and I hope you find the stillness to hear yourself. To listen, and to act, in your own best interests.

You deserve that. Continually coming back to this point of inquiry reminds me of my own needs and wants - my own sovereignty. It reminds me that despite what I see others doing, despite what I’ve always done, despite what “the experts” suggest is the “right” way to do it - ultimately, I get to choose. And so do you.

What if 'true' healing is not a state in which we finally become liberated from feeling, but freer and more flexible to experience it more fully?

What if 'true' healing is not linear, predictable, comfortable, easy, pretty, finite, a "one-size-fits all" solution, a "quick fix", something that you have to prove to anyone, about "becoming" someone else?

What if so much of what we call healing really is just remembering how to become more of who we really are?

What if I tell you that 'true' healing is:
⭐︎ an ever changing process
⭐︎ surprising & uncertain
⭐︎ exhausting but liberating & life-changing
⭐︎ an never ending journey of self-discovery
⭐︎ very personal, unique & different for everyone
⭐︎ very time intensive
⭐︎ something that you have to do only for yourself
⭐︎ about remembering who you truly are

Dear one, “healed” is not where you will be worthy of a GOOD life.
You are worthy now.
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As you heal.

🧡

Nila

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Thank you my dearest @zankacreative for this beautiful custom made illustration. A quote that guides my daily life & work. A free wallpaper will be send out in todays 🧡-letter. (link in bio) ✨

❥ What kind of relationships heal? The ones wher

❥ What kind of relationships heal? The ones where you feel safe, seen, heard, and accepted as you are -- without being expected to change into someone else.

Yes, it can be loving romantic partnerships. But healing also happens in genuine and nurturing friends, mentors, teachers, and coaching relationships - to name a few.

Nurturing relationships foster true belonging, an acceptance you without the demand that you sacrifice who you authentically are. Relationships require tolerance for everything except intolerance. They thrive in safety, trust and continuity.

May you surround yourself with people who make you hungry for life, touch your heart and nourish your soul. People who genuinely want to see the *real* you, who want to understand you and support you on your path.

⭐︎ People who cheer *and* challenge you.
⭐︎ People who can hold the space in moments of (awkward) silence.
⭐︎ People who make you feel seen, heard, understood, loved and whole.
⭐︎ People who give you permission to just be - you.

I am realising more and more the importance of connecting to the these kind of people. How sharing our tears and little joys, our sadness and awkwardness, holding space for both/and, supports me on my own journey home - to myself. I truly believe that wounds must be witnessed to be healed. Healing takes time, it takes love, and it takes being held in a sacred space by another who will care for you along the way.

You deserve to be held and supported on this journey.

🌿 Today's invitation: Notice who helps you be yourself without expecting you to be someone else. It's a reminder that we need each other and you aren't meant to go through life alone. You deserve to be guided and witnessed in your becoming!

I'm going to spend the weekend away from technology & social media. Surrounded by people I love & who love me back. Maybe this is an invitation for you to do the same?

Feel free to tag a friend below to tell them that they are one of those you like to be surrounded by!

Sending you love 🧡

Nila

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👉🏼 swipe for some personal musings/reminders on "being yourself" and connecting to "your" people!

❥ I wish you could hear me scream this through t

❥ I wish you could hear me scream this through the screen: No one chooses to be traumatised! And our love does not depend on what happened to us or how far we are on our healing journey. Unconditional love is our birthright. 🧡

Love is not conditional on how "healed" you are, how "awakened", how pleasing you are, how compliant you are or how good you are. Love is not something we earn. Love doesn’t happen when we become what we are not. Love is truth and truth is exactly what’s real in this moment.

Here's what I've learned about trauma healing and love: Both of them can be present at the same time. Both of them are possible. Feeling whole is possible. Internal freedom is possible. Receiving love is possible. (Re)learning to love yourself is possible. Falling in love is possible.

Love is truly the essence of who you are at the core level. Unfortunately lovelessness is what we learn through conditioning and/or through trauma. Have you noticed that there is an entire industry devoted to self-love? This in and of itself is problematic. Because, how could you sell love to someone who's already love?

Love is nothing you can buy. It's something you can only (re)connect to, cultivate and remember.

We require community to fully restore ourselves to the world. We need each other to mirror us the love we carry in our own heart. Reach out to those who make you feel seen, heard, loved and supported.

And remember that not everyone will understand your healing journey and what you are going though, because only you will ever know. Don’t waste your energy trying to get them to see the world through your eyes.   For now, work on building a loving relationship to yourself. You deserve that.

May you open your heart so that the love can enter you.
May you remember how unconditionally loved you are - just as you are - always and forever.

Nila

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PS: The second photo was taken 6 years ago in a hospital bathroom after I almost lost my life. Unconditional love saved my life. My willingness to receive it changed my life. Learning to love myself transformed my life. My hope is that it will do the same for you. Love will save your life! 🧡

❥ What are you creating space for this month? 🕊

hmmm.. the art of consciously creating (and holding) space.

Consciously creating space - both internally and externally - has become one of the most potent daily practices for me. Space away from the busyness of daily life. Space away from the to-do lists. Space between actions and reactions. Between stimulus and response. Between knowing with certainty and holding space for what wants to happen next. (hint: this is part of learning to "harness your inner wisdom" - something I'm deeply passionate about.)

When we are able to create space and sit with our emotions, feelings, thoughts, and sensations holding them in loving awareness, acknowledging them without reaction, and meeting them with curiosity, we are able to respond in a more supportive way.

Creating space in body, mind, and soul through movement, inquiry, and stillness allows us to choose how we spend my days and how we respond to things we cannot control. Yes, we still have to work, but rather than working on autopilot through our days it allows us to have a sense of presence for how we show up for ourselves and show up to serve others. It's our choice. It's our life after all - and we already have all we need.

Besides, true transformation only begins with the act of creating space, holding space, and the radical acceptance of what is, of where we are, of who we are. Allowing that space to inspire us to be(come) who we came here to be -- a remembrance of who we already are and have always been.

So my invitation for you - and me as we journey onward is this: Let’s live life being present. In the sacred space between no longer - and not yet. Let that space inspire you. One day at the time. ✨

Softening.
Noticing.
Feeling.
Honouring.
Investigating.
Releasing.

Over and over again.

🌿 Feel free to fill in the blanks:
Today I create space for ________.
Creating space for that feels ________.

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Thank you so much for sharing some of your heart and life with me in this online space. Here’s to making space for something new.

I love holding space for (all of) you 🧡

Nila

Ps: have you seen my latest REEL? I think you will like it. 😉✨

❥ If there's one thing you leave this little App

❥ If there's one thing you leave this little App with today, let it be this one..
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You cannot 'do it all alone' (stay with me. I think there is a need for this conversation to take place!)
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I tried - oh for so many years, to 'do it all alone'. I read all the books, listened to the podcasts, studied everything from modern science to ancient ‘truth’. The result?
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I started making some shifts in my life, and yet.. it didn't last for long. It was an ongoing journey of rising and 'falling’. Ebbs and flows, but no lasting change. I was afraid to ask for help and get supported on my journey. We are “selfhealers” after all, right?
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Yes, but..
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the more we attempt to hide in our pain, the more that pain runs our lives. True healing for me began the moment I stopped hiding. The more I leaned into the hurt I was avoiding and led myself be guided to harness that innate power to heal, the more I discovered the deeper purpose beneath it all. Self-healing does NOT mean Solo-healing.
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The truth - that I was afraid to admit - is this:⁣
We cannot “do it all alone”.⁣
We were never meant to.

Being seen, heard, witnessed and supported by community is needed for life changing transformation to happen.
You are whole. You are not in this alone. You deserve to experience what it means to belong.
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There's an old saying that goes like this: "If you want to travel FAST go it alone. If you want to travel FAR, go together."
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Turns out it might just be true.

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Dear one, if you find yourself at a place where you feel lost or 'stuck', I lovingly invite you to seek out support. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Let yourself be supported as you learn to support yourself.
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What I hope for you (whoever is reading this message) is to give yourself permission to reach out and ask for help. Allow the person you are reaching out to decide if they are able to support you. That’s for them to decide, not you. If someone says no, you will not lose anything. If someone says yes, you have a lot to gain.

I see you and I am here for you. Always. 🧡
⠀⠀
Nila

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ps: swipe for some (important) reminders. ✨

❥ As always, here are your monthly reminders ✨

❥ No more hiding. No more playing small. No more

❥ No more hiding. No more playing small. No more feeling guilty for the things that make me human. 🕊

As a recovering people pleaser, I have spent a lifetime feeling guilty for a lot of things - including my feelings, needs & desires - it’s been conditioned by modern society and family systems. "Good girls don't..." is a sentence I am very familiar with. The worst part: I not only feel guilty for my own actions but also for how other people react to them. Someone refuses to accept my boundaries - I feel guilty for placing them in the first place. Someone refuses to hear me out - I feel guilty for asserting my needs in the first place. The list goes on and on.

It's exhausting. But I am working on it.

Over the last couple of years working with a number of recovering people pleasers like myself, I came to realise that many of us immediately feel guilty when someone in our surrounding gets upset - without even realising. Often, we start apologizing because we worry too much about what other people think, or because we put their feelings above our own needs. Society has trained us to believe that it’s polite to apologise - even for the things that were never ours to own. It's exhausting.
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But if you’re feeling guilty for things that you’re not at fault for, it may be time to look deeper. I am still working on this myself, so here are a few things I am practicing these days:
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1. Practice self-awareness by observing yourself in daily conversations. How often does the feeling of guilt show up?
2. Pause before apologising (immediate response to guilt).
3. Know what you should (and shouldn’t) feel guilty about.
4. Use your triggers as teachers. When do you feel most guilt and in what circumstances?

🌿 I would love to know: Do you feel guilty when it isn’t necessary? Do you say “I’m sorry” when there’s no reason? What things do you need to stop feeling guilty about?

Let's make a commitment, you and me:
No more hiding. No more playing small.

We are so worthy of being seen in our fullness. 🧡
⠀⠀
Nila

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Psst: swipe for my highlight of the day. ✨❄️

❥ The answer may be more simple than you think..

❥ The answer may be more simple than you think..
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Don’t get me wrong, the tools I - and many others out here provide - are wonderful and useful and often supportive, but it isn't the winning ticket to the solution. It all starts right here (inside), raw and oh so very personal in the present moment.
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So let this be a reminder that while we search and search and search elsewhere, its easy to forget that it starts within, and it’s always been there, just waiting for us to be seen and explored in the now. The only place where life exists. It’s in the BEING not in the doing where you’ll discover the answers you are seeking for. There is no before and after, problem and solution, one-way solution but a continues journey that holds so much more than I can share in a single caption.
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Let this be a reminder to look inside to start uncovering the answer to your question that has always been there. In front of you. Within. It's the living that brings you understanding not the planning, researching and watching others “do the work”. Here is all there ever was, is and will be. It’s where we spin our stories about past and future. It’s where life ends - and begins. I’m learning to lean more into the “moment by moment” opposed to the “planning and achieving” feelings. Moment by moment, day by day, experience by experience, I am practicing opening my heart to the life that is right in front of me, the one that I hold in my hands, the one that is mine to own, to live, to enjoy.
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It’s a journey. But it’s a beautiful one. To be able to harness your own inner wisdom. So I encourage you to follow along!
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Moment by moment, nourish your inner world my dear. The wisdom exists WITHIN you.
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Sending love to all of you 🧡
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As always,
Nila

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