"Life is not about finding yourself. It's about creating yourself."

Life is not about finding yourself. It’s about CREATING yourself.

Life is not about finding yourself. It’s about CREATING yourself.

In the past, I was trying to discover who I am and what life really means to me. The truth is that life is that we are all capable to learn from our challenges and to evolve into the person we inspire to be. If there is one advice I learned through the law of attraction that I can give you after years of trying to figure out what my true purpose is and to find an answer for the question: “WHO AM I?” it is this: Throw out the recipe book, the paint-by-numbers kit, and anything anyone ever told you about who or what you should be—and chart your own course!


It’s not easy—and it’s not comfortable.

We are trained from birth to make safe, reliable choices all the time. In school, teachers encourage us to CT conform and not to color outside the lines; in business colleagues confront us with “blueprints” and case studies; the media shows us how we should dress, where to vacation, and who we should emulate and admire. We are basically trained to live to learn but what if we would start to learn to live?

Remember those days of your childhood, when you just did whatever your tiny body felt like doing? When we were kids we intuitively leaned in the direction of creation. Making mud pies, finger painting and exploring was a lot more satisfying than playing with a toy, wasn’t it? We were charting our own courses, creating something new, and finding out more about ourselves. In fact, kids can teach us a lot about the creative process.


Creating yourself.

It’s the uncharted experiences, not the guided tours, which truly help us “create” ourselves. When we listen to the inner nudge to do something different and go in a way that intuition leads us—follow our dreams and desires rather than in someone else’s footsteps—those are the moments that define who we are and give us insight into how we can participate in the world around us. We shouldn’t lose sight of that.

So my advice for you is instead of trying to “find yourself” by following what others have done, dust off one of the dreams you’ve kept locked away—one that makes your heart sing with anticipation—and just for fun, plot out a plan to make it happen. For me it was attending a Yoga teacher training in Bali and traveling on my own for 6 months. I still work at an office in Marketing and appreciate what I do for a living. But with the new habits (including my daily yoga practice), I have created a life that is more fulfilling, more appreciating and happier than ever before.

Dreaming is an act of creation, and it’s the wellspring of innovation. So don’t stifle your inner creator; feed it, and open yourself to new possibilities.



With this in mind, you can learn more from your experiences and make the choices that help create the person you want to be, and not let your surroundings make the decision for you.

Thank you for reading.

Xx, Nila

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